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I’m using my lifeline: Poker

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This is a story about opening up your hearts and minds. It’s a true story. And it’s also a story about poker, and life. My life in particular.  What do you do when you have had a particularly bad day? How do you cope with it? And what would you do if one day you […]

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Are we breaking up Instagram?

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I had a dream last night that I started posting pictures of myself and what I look like most days. And what I look like most days is tired, pale, with crazy hair. But on my actual timeline you see the version that takes a little bit of work: my hair is usually done and […]

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To Be or Not to Be a B Cup

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This Cancer Survivor’s opinion about Reconstruction Overwhelmed and dazed. That’s the best way to describe how I felt when I was diagnosed with cancer in 2015. My version was Stage 2A invasive lobular breast cancer. After returning home from a magical Mexico vacation with my husband I discovered a lump in my left breast. This […]

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Why we moved to Canada

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In March of 2016 Monty & I packed up our car and our cat and made the move from Madison, WI to Ottawa, ON. Many of our friends in the States still question why we made the move and often our new fellow Canadians ask us the same question. It tends to happen at least […]

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Remember me? It’s Pamela, I miss you.

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It has been a long time my friends, over a year actually. How are you doing? I’m doing pretty good. I’m sorry that it has taken me so long to write, but it has been a hectic year. Monty & I (and Misty) are still in Ottawa and enjoying Canadian living. We do miss our […]

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Breast Cancer Update: More Surgery, Less Pain

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I couldn’t be happier. Ok I might be a little happier if I had my original breast. And if I didn’t ever have cancer. And oh if only I had my 22 year old body back. But I am recovering from another surgery and am so happy with the results. Here’s what happened. As we […]

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Permission to be Lazy

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The other evening Monty & I attended an event where the guest speaker was meant to inspire the audience. We weren’t sure of the subject matter heading into it, but the talking points and leave behind messages were something like this. “Success is achieved by hard work”, “If you have dreams, then dream bigger”, “Make […]

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Not just another Breast Cancer Awareness List

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The unfortunate fact is that someone you know is likely going to be diagnosed with breast cancer in your lifetime. I am a survivor of stage 2 lobular invasive breast cancer. I underwent a modified radical mastectomy, radiation and take long term hormone suppressor drugs. I am 18 months since diagnosis and 6 months since […]

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This group saved my cat’s life

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If you are like me and Monty, your pet companions are an important part of your family. To some, like us, they are your best friends and like children. As you know we lost one of our beloved cats, Salem this summer, so our concern became even greater as my other cat, Misty’s, strange health […]

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Talking Friendship with my Friend of 33 Years

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A couple of weeks ago, I traveled down to Charlotte, N.C to visit my girlfriend Sue. She had just relocated there with her husband and two teenage kids after many years of living in Atlanta. I wanted to see how she was settling into her new home and community and spend time with her just […]

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10 Things to Consider Before you Start your Own Business

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Note: I refer to ‘iona’ many times in this post. Iona was the designer fashion boutique I opened and ran in Madison, WI from 2013-2015. Let’s get started. The questions I am most commonly asked today are: 1. Do you miss ‘iona’? 2. Would you open ‘iona’ again? 3. How did you start your own […]

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What does Poker and a Folk Singer have in Common?

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Answer: They are both helping me become a better person. Bear with me, this does all connect, and I would like to explain how. First of all, Monty and I headed down to Vegas with friends in early July to play a number of World Series of Poker Events, including the $10,000 buy in Main Event. […]

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Learning Graceful Life Lessons Through “Grace & Frankie”

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Have you watched the Netflix series “Grace & Frankie“? I found it to be a very healing show at a time when I needed it. I binge watched the first two seasons of the show recently after returning home from an emotional time at my parents house after my beloved Dad’s recent passing. The show […]

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The Real Housewives & I get Real about Invisible Illnesses

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“Your sole mission is to articulate your suffering so that it emancipates you and empowers other women”   I wish I authored that quote. I didn’t. This quote is by Carole Radziwill from the #RHONY on the 5/11/16 episode . And for those of you who do not admit to occasionally watching Bravo, #RHONY = […]

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My Best & My Worst. What does this all mean?

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I met with my new psychologist this past week. I was skeptical about meeting with her however, I took a deep breath and talked and listened. I was pleasantly surprised by the outcome. One of the things we discussed was allowing myself to grieve my former identities: athlete, skinny, energetic, pain free me, youthful in […]

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Barely Surviving Breast Cancer

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I think all of my cancer is gone. At least I hope so. I check in with one of my 5 cancer team doctors on average once a month. But even with being 8 months after my surgery, and 5 months after completing my radiation treatments, I am still, I have to be honest, miserable. I […]

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Aruba 2015 FTW

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What a trip! After a rough start (I gave myself a candy induced migraine and couldn’t fly), we eventually made it to Aruba to play in the PPC World Poker Championships, and to have our first vacation after a crummy summer. Note: last year when we went to Aruba at this same time, I had […]

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Rebecca Ryan asks me ‘How was your support’? An After the Cancer Q&A

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When I was first diagnosed with Cancer, my friend Rebecca Ryan immediately came to me and offered to be my support group ‘Project Manager’. It was such a gift from her, offering her time to do this. Knowing I wouldn’t have the energy or time to organize support, mass communicate, or plan logistics, Rebecca came […]

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I Won a Poker Tournament and the Guys said ‘She’s Just Lucky’

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A funny thing happened after I won the PPC Mid-West Poker Classic. I received a ton of congratulations and well wishes for a great win, particularly given my health. However I also received a resounding number of semi-praises. From men. To my face, and on social media, many men offered their congratulations, but dozens more […]

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When Should I Shop? Fashion Delivery Schedule

It’s March and spring styles are just hitting the store, but fall 2015/16 runway shows are going on too? The fashion timeline/schedule is confusing so let’s shed some light on it. I remember when I first began learning about the fashion timeline in school. I remember thinking to myself, ‘Yeah, I’m not going to remember that.’ As […]

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